People talk about the importance friendship. Circles of friends. Professional vs Personal circles.
People talk about how through friendship one gets support, advice, kick-you-in-the-behind tough love.
BUT, have you asked yourself, do you have friends with whom you can rant, freely?
Rant. Whine. Vent. Complain. Basically be negative, be annoying, be the one who tests people’s patience.
It dawns on me that a big part of my mental health hails from ranting. Admit it, everyone does it. Some too much, some not enough. I would go as far as to say, everyone should do it. Ranting in moderation contributes to well being.
I am super blessed with many friends who indulge my need to rant. In fact, the real art of it is that one needs niches of friends to share specific types of rants. Below are some of my “rant circles”
- My little sister (rant subject: our parents. NOTE: rant with lots of love!).
- My husband (rant subject: everything. Yes, he gets it all!).
- MyFitnessPal.com friends (rant subject: confusion and frustration regarding working out and maintaining weight).
- Selected moms (rant subject: the ugly, frustrating, scary side of parenting).
- 40-something peer professionals (rant subject: those “breakthroughs” from 20-somethings…didn’t we do the same thing in the 90s??)
- Career women (rant subject: work life balance is so last century).
Bottom line: it is OK to rant as long as you have the right audience and you are willing to be the listener in return!
What about you? Do you have reliable outlets to let off steam sometimes? Are you trying too hard to be positive all the time?