Life Experiments

It took me a long time to realize the purpose of my blog is about life experimentation.

From health to parenting to career, we are doing that all the time.

Perhaps you have read a new approach to “productivity” (hot topic in the startup arena) and you are trying that out.

Perhaps you are checking out a new diet that promised to combat your diabetic problems.

Whatever you are trying to achieve, why not consider yourself a scientist?










Why I did not blog

A fortnight ago I was all determined not only blog but to do so daily, 10 days in a row.

I did not. And I did not feel bad about that at all.

Why? Because the experiment has taught me not once, but twice about the real essence of blogging.

When I first missed blogging, I learned.

When I realize blogging daily is NOT my thing, I learned.

My goal and promise: I do not write according to a schedule, but because I have something to share with others who are on a similar journey.



When deadline is your fuel

Only 2 days into my 10-day blogging experiment, an unmistakable trend emerged: that my motor runs on deadlines. 


As if that was a surprise. As far as I remember, and I do have an exceptional memory, exam revisions mean all-nighters and real deadlines bring out the best of me.

This is rather inconvenient when it comes to this 10-day experiment model. A day has 24 hours and nothing has stopped me from posting at 11:45 pm (indeed, the clock just turned 12am; it is tomorrow).


It is of course not rocket science. Countless people have life-long routines. Many  use calendar entries to kickstart a new routine, such as working out 5:30 pm every  weekday. But routine and I are not fast friends. While understood on an intellectual level, I rarely/never manage to evolve into a creature of habit. I too have used my calendar including multiple alerts…but things just did not happen.

This time it feels different. I get it. I FEEL IT, the desire to have a neatly scheduled day so I do not have to wander/rush from task to task. Looking back at the last 2 days, surely my blogging would have been more enjoyable had I set my alert to a specific time, hot tea in hand, and approach the keyboard with oh-look-I-am-so-in-control pride.

Here’s to wrapping up day 2 and onto day 3.

Embracing the Ebbs and Flows in the New Year

Bidding goodbye to a most horrendous Year 2014. Here are a few thoughts on embracing the ups and downs of life.

We have had an extremely tough year as a family, health-wise. Happy to report that the most serious issues have been cleared. There are flickers of light, daily, to encourage us to keep going, knowing we will be rewarded in the long run.

Even after an absolutely-do-nothing recuperation during the holidays, thanks to my marvellous and supportive husband, I still do not have enough energy to share all information appropriately on this public space. However, I do want to jot down some thoughts on how I embrace the ups and downs of life.  Rather, how I have learned to and continue to improve on the fine art of embracing the ebbs and the flows, the good and the ugly.

I am sure some of you may be having challenges too, and I hope this post would somehow deliver some warm encouragement.

1. Reaching out

I have reached out to personal friends and on topic-specific online groups. Super grateful for all the support I have received from near and afar.

I have been called “brave” for sharing my health issues. It surprised me every time someone mentioned that, because for me health issues – mental, physical, known, unknown – should not be a taboo or secretive. Having said that, I do understand in many cultures, ailments are seen as kind of “imperfections”, an unfair connotation that is the focus of many health campaigns.

If you have some heath issues, PLEASE, seek professional guidance and reach out for support. I find that it is easiest to talk with friends who already/are most likely to understand the issues in question. It can be tiring, frustrating, or even discouraging to talk with people with strong and stubborn presumptions.

2. Seek and follow professional guidance

There appears to be a trend of opposing the “evil institutions” from doctors to pharmaceutical companies. Listen, yes, they are out there to make a profit/living, but their knowledge is infinitely more reliable than what you can find via googling. The key is to work WITH your medical professionals – the more you are involved, the more you ask, the more you contribute, the more you are in control of your own health WITH expert advice.

The same goes for the “soft” side of the equation such as therapies. It may be hit or miss, but (learning from experience), it is most likely a better investment than buying self-help books or going the yoga-cures-all route that are catered for the masses.

3. Learning, always

I am a silver-lining person; it is in my nature to see some goods out of a bad experience, and learn and move forward. Perhaps this is not your second nature, but why not at least try?

Think of every curve ball as an opportunity to learn. If you succeed, a HUGE pat on the shoulder!! Go brag about it!!! Go celebrate!

If not, you have some special learning under your belt, which translate into advantages in the next round. See, no matter what, you learn, you GAIN.

4. Fist world problem, perhaps?

Our almost-new dishwasher started leaking after Christmas. I am handwashing everything while waiting for the spare parts ad repairs. This is insanity, this is torture….and this is the acceptable reality of many people around the world.

Handwashing dishes for a finite period of time is absolutely nothing compared to the wars, famines and political uproars experienced daily by people in other parts of the world.

Perspectives help.

5. Growing old, lucky you

Remember this, each day you wake up.

Wishing all of you a Happy and Healthy Year 2015. Please help me to blog frequently and regularly in the new year 🙂